Why First Looks Matter

For many couples, the first look has become one of the most emotional and memorable parts of a wedding day. It is that private, unscripted moment where you see each other fully dressed and ready before the ceremony begins. Some couples feel strongly about saving the reveal for the aisle, while others love the intimacy and calm that comes with a first look.

As a wedding photographer, I have seen just how powerful these moments can be. They create genuine emotion, ease nerves, and set the tone for the rest of the day. Whether you choose a first look or a traditional aisle reveal, understanding your options will help you make the best decision for your wedding.

What Exactly Is a First Look?

A first look is a planned moment before the ceremony where the couple sees each other for the first time. Traditionally, the big reveal happens as the bride walks down the aisle, but more and more couples are choosing to have a private reveal earlier in the day.

Why? Because it can:

• Ease nerves and settle emotions before the ceremony
  
• Give you space for private vows or words you might not want to share in front of a crowd
  
• Allow more time for portraits and bridal party photos before guests arrive
  
• Create an extra layer of story and connection in your wedding album
  

The Benefits of Having a First Look

1. A Private Moment Together

Wedding days move quickly, and you will spend much of it surrounded by family, friends, and vendors. A first look gives you a few quiet minutes with just the two of you, something rare on such a busy day.

2. Less Nerves, More Calm

Seeing your partner before the ceremony often helps release built-up nerves. You get to share your emotions privately, rather than trying to hold them in until you are in front of a crowd.

3. More Time for Photos

Couples who have a first look can take portraits and bridal party photos earlier, freeing up more of the cocktail hour or reception to spend with guests.

4. Double the Emotion

Far from ruining the moment at the aisle, many couples feel they get two unforgettable moments: one private, one public. The emotions are just as strong, if not stronger, when walking down the aisle.

How to Plan Your First Look

Choose the Right Location

Look for somewhere with privacy, beautiful light, and meaning to you both. A quiet garden, a dramatic staircase, or even a tucked-away corner of your venue can work perfectly.

Talk with Your Photographer

Your photographer will guide you on timing, location, and how to position yourselves. They will also balance capturing the moment with giving you space to just be in it.

Time It Carefully

Usually, first looks happen 2 to 3 hours before the ceremony. This allows enough time for portraits afterwards without feeling rushed.

How to Make It Truly Unforgettable

1. Add a Personal Touch

Think about ways to make the reveal unique to you. Some couples exchange letters or gifts, read private vows, or share a favourite song.

2. Do Not Over-Rehearse

The best first looks are the ones that feel authentic. Avoid practising reactions or scripting words. Let the emotions flow naturally.

3. Focus on Each Other

Try to forget the cameras for a moment. Lock eyes, take a breath, and remember what this day is about.

4. Trust Your Photographer

You will want to relive this moment for years, so let your photographer guide the logistics. A good photographer will know how to capture the emotion while still allowing you to feel fully present.

What If You Are Not Sure About a First Look?

Not every couple feels a first look is right for them, and that is completely fine. Here are some alternatives that still create intimate, pre-ceremony moments without seeing each other:

• A “first touch” where you hold hands around a door or wall
  
• Exchanging letters or gifts
  
• Speaking privately on opposite sides of a curtain or corner
  

Conclusion: Making Your Choice

A first look is not for everyone. But if you are curious, I always encourage couples to talk it through with each other and with their photographer. When done well, it adds depth, intimacy, and storytelling to your wedding photos, and it gives you both a pocket of calm on one of the biggest days of your lives.

Still deciding whether a first look is right for you? I would love to chat about what would work best for your day. Let us talk through your vision and see how we can capture those unforgettable moments in a way that feels authentic to you.